21 Oct 2010
::I am posting this in pregnancy because there’s more women here than in the health section::
I am asking because my friend had this really, what we feel, was an inappropriate physical the other day. She is otherwise healthy, but get migraines and wanted to see a specialist about them- all other medicines and non-medical treatments arent working.
So she went to this new office to see a specialist. A male doctor- who specializes in headaches and the like. They told her she’d go in for a routine physical and gave her a gown and had her strip down to her undies. Fairly common- although I’ve NEVER had to put on a gown for a physical, unless it was for the OBGYN.
So tra la la, in comes the doctor, and he’s doing his routine, and during it he keeps pulling her gown down and looking down her front, quite a few times. And then finally pulls out the stethoscope and listens to her heart- in the normal places- between her breasts and over some of the very top breast tissue on the left. Then he proceeds to stick his hands up her gown and LIFT and HOLD and CUP her boob and listen with the stethoscope from BENEATH her breast! We’re talking like down at the same level as the false ribs almost!
There was no warning, no reason, no NOTHING. She just froze- didnt know what to do or say. He didnt say anything, just went on from there with other routine things, BP and the like. But she felt VERy violated, and I certainly would have too.
I looked it up online and couldnt find ANYTHING ANYWHERE suggesting that its medically necessary to listen to a woman’s heart from below the breast- and that if it were most doctors can listen from the side or back. And if it WERE medically necessary wouldnt it make sense to WARN a patient?
When she called to complain, she got the manager of the office and before she even finished saying anything she interrupted my friend to say "oh I know exactly why you’re calling for we get complaints a lot about him, and we’ve told him before to warn women, I’ll remind him AGAIN no to do that!" WTH?!
Doesnt it just sound wrong? I really feel like there were liberties taken- she’s been to many MANY doctors over the course of her life, so have I, so have all our friends and family, and none of them could remember having EVER had this happen- even with heart doctors or URI treatments….
She’s going to file a formal complaint, but we’re not wrong in finding this disturbing are we?
necessary or not, if the receptionist knew what you were calling for before you even told her – something is wrong.
he should at least be fired. most jobs ANYWHERE (as a cashier, custodian – anything) if they have to tell you something way more than once they fire you. but if what he’s doing is making people feel so uncomfortable they have to call to complain… something is definitely wrong.